Are you resisting networking because you feel like it’s dirty business? Well, you are not alone. A study published in 2014 found that networking with the goal of career advancement made people feel icky. The study, co-authored by professors from Harvard Business School, University of Toronto, and Northwestern University, used one experiment to conclude that this kind of transactional networking for professional gain made people subconsciously rank cleaning products higher than other household or office products. In another experiment participants who thought about this kind of professional networking answered fill-in the blank words with words associated with bathing, while those thinking about personal networking to build friendships did not.
What leads to this feeling of being dirty? We are our harshest critics, so if we cannot justify our networking behavior and feel we are using others without offering anything in return, we may question our moral purity and that makes us feel dirty.
All networking is not created equally. There are differences that make a difference. The authors of this study draw a distinction between professional networking and personal networking. Within each they further distinguish between what they call “instrumental networking” and “spontaneous networking.” Instrumental networking is when social connections are made with the explicit goal of career advancement. Spontaneous networking is the random conversation you have with a fellow conference attendee while waiting for the break-out session to begin. Both types of networking could lead to career advancement, but the spontaneous conversation does not make people feel dirty as they aren’t approaching that conversation with an outcome in mind.
Here’s the real kicker though, the study found that people who participated in instrumental professional networking more frequently found that it had a positive impact on their job performance. That’s right. Those that got past those icky feelings and strategically networked had better job performance. This is because everything you’ve heard about the importance of networking is true. If you want to advance within an organization or within an industry, you need to connect with, as the study says, “people with access to opportunities, political insight, and technical knowledge.”
Guess who didn’t feel as dirty about networking? People with positions of authority. The study found that people who were lower on the corporate ladder felt a greater sense of moral impurity when they participated in instrumental networking. Yet, the people they were networking with to climb the corporate ladder, the people in powerful positions, did not feel dirty while networking.
The reason is that people in powerful positions do not approach networking as a means of advancing their career. As the study says, “in their minds, others are not as instrumental to their goals.” These individuals approach networking situations well aware of the value they can offer in a relationship. The study says, “the powerful are more likely to reciprocate help, favors, or support, and their networking tends to yield more balanced relationships, with the powerful potentially giving as much as or more than they take from others.”
So what does this mean for you? Approach networking with a strong sense of what you have to offer, what value you can share. The “what’s in it for me” approach is not helping you, because it makes you feel dirty, then you are less likely to network, and your job performance will suffer. That’s the exact opposite effect you were looking for when you considered networking to advance your career.
Take some time to get clear on who you want to meet AND what you can offer them. Yes, even if you are just starting out your career you can offer something of value to someone who is highly successful. This is not going to be easy to figure out, but making the effort to offer value will make you stand out AND will lessen the likelihood that you will feel dirty about networking.
So what value can you offer? One idea is to comment on, share, and like their online content. This will help them share their ideas and increase their visibility. Another option, is to offer to take notes or do other admin work for a pet project they are working on, this will have the double benefit of putting you in the room with other highly successful people while being seen for your initiative and follow-through. Here’s one more idea: Is there a skill that you can do in your sleep, but may not be a strength for them? Offer to teach them how to use social media more effectively for example.
The authors of the study also suggested that how we feel about networking might improve if the expectations around it were more explicit. Attending a networking event hosted by your company with the stated goal of introducing junior staff to senior staff will likely not result in you feeling dirty even if you were one of the junior staff. The same might be true when your goal around networking is to benefit your organization or project as a whole, rather than focus on your individual career advancement.
As the study says, “this lessening of the contaminating effects of professional- instrumental networking may work as an important tool for the powerless in organizations, who feel dirtiest when they intentionally pursue professional relationships and thus particularly need means to justify networking to themselves.” Since networking is so important to job performance and career advancement, finding a way to build relationships without the ick factor will be a key factor in your success.
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